Thursday 10 December 2015
Monday 7 December 2015
23 Promises Every Girl Should Make To Her Best Friends And Keep Forever
Whoever said that best friends were the chocolate chips of life was definitely onto something. They’re the sweetness, sprinkled in between the muck of life – they’re the cause for celebration and excitement; they’re with you, always, even when you’re sure you don’t need them (but you always do).
They’re tender and always in style. Best friends, like chocolate chips, never lose their secret touch — they always add a little something extrato the mix, a little something sweet. So it makes sense to treat them as synonymously as we do our favorite, timeless chocolate treats.
Best friends are… well, best friends are everything.
You always think you know how much you need and appreciate them, but then the thing happens to you that you’re not ready to handle alone and suddenly, swiftly and unapologetically, you realize just how life-saving a friendship with your favorite person really is.
We reserve a special type of intimacy for our best friends; we tell them everything without ever having to say a word. We share secrets, we swap stories – and sometimes, we look to them to reveal the things we’re most afraid to tell ourselves.
We spend our lives running into and out of our best friends’ arms. We live and die by the connections that we build with them. We find them in the wind, the trees, the sun.
We see their face in a stranger as we’re passing the Seine or feel the comfort of a phrase they’d use rolled off the tongue of a local out of breath and hiking up the Andes.
Though we might not always be physically with them, we are never spiritually, emotionally or mentally without them. We carry them everywhere, through everything.
5 Reasons Your Best Friend Is the Best Person to Travel With
1. There's no fighting over what to do because you have the same feelings about how you want to mix "doing things" and "doing nothing." You both go into any trips you plan with similar feelings about how much stuff you want to do and how much sitting in a beach chair while someone brings you margaritas you want to do. Planning your itinerary is always a question of when you'll do stuff, not what you'll do.
2. However, you don't have to do everything together. When you're traveling with your boyfriend, you basically never part company unless you're in a fight. But with your bestie, you feel totally fine splitting up for a few hours if you don't want to do the same thing one day. You really want to see if Zara is different in Paris, and Sally really wants to go to the Rodin Museum? Not a problem! You'll meet up in three hours at the Eiffel Tower and swap stories over macarons.
3. Planning and logistical stuff isn't stressful. If you both like to plan, then all your bookings are split evenly and basically every day leading up to your trip involves an email from one of you with another suggestion for somewhere to stay or a place to eat. If she's the organization queen, you just trust her and Venmo her immediately.
4. There's no arguing in general, really. You already know the few things you don't agree on and anticipate them ahead of time. Sure, you kind of cannot deal with the fact that she likes to get to the airport with 30 minutes to spare. But you know this, so you just meet at the airport and get there whatever time you want. Problem solved.
5. You don't mind sharing close quarters. When your family went on vacation to Spain, you found out just how small European hotel rooms are. Thankfully, sharing a room with your bestie is a lot better than sharing a room with your brother. You don't even need two beds! (But if you can get a two-bedroom Airbnb, no one's complaining.)
7 Fun Things To Do With Friends Without Spending Much!!!
1. A potluck dinner party. Host a dinner party and ask everyone to bring a dish to share. If you are not comfortable with cooking, maybe try and learn how to cook a new dish together with your friends.
2. Host a spa day. Give each other manicures. Try out new hairstyles. Make some facial masks or exfoliates using natural, at-home ingredients. Then drink mimosas.
3. Movie marathon. Log into Netflix and watch every episode of “Orange is the New Black.” Or do an ’80s movie marathon, watching “Pretty in Pink,” “The Breakfast Club” and all of our old favorites. Don’t have a Netflix membership? Get the free trial just for the marathon!
4. Pinterest party! You know all of those cool Pinterest crafts you say you’re going to do? Do them. At home one night with friends. Then make up some of those bacon-wrapped whatevers you’ve been dying to try!
5. Go to the park. Pack a picnic. Hang out. Watch people. Play on the swings.
6. Have an organization party. Set up a day of each weekend where you go to each of your friends’ houses and help them clean out a closet, a room, a garage, whatever. Serve drinks and food and trade stuff among yourselves.
7. Hold a yard sale. After all of that cleaning, why not hang out together and make some extra cash too?
Being friends is about sharing our lives with others. There are some aspects of our lives that require that we spend a lot of time together or a lot of writing to help convey our feelings. Other times sharing only a few words are more than adequate. It is not always the long conversation that conveys the deepest feelings. Sometimes, longer modes of expression may seem redundant and lacking in profundity. Putting just the right combination of words on paper in a succinct style may just hit the spot.
Reasons why Friends are Important
Friends are our family outside the closed walls of house. They have a huge contribution in making us who we are as individuals. Their importance in life is indescribable. But these are certain points that will restate some of the facts that make friends so special and important –
Share secrets.
Friends are the secret reservoirs. Friends are the ones to share all the little and large secrets and happening of the life. Secrets about our crush, the kiss, the date, our family problems, the mishaps, the embarrassing moments, the funny stories and the list covers anything and everything in life.
Boost self confidence.
We may doubt our decisions and abilities, but our friends will never do so. Through the most nerve wreaking moments of life, they stand by us confidently making us believe in ourselves. At times we gain the confidence to take risks and huge leaps just because of the belief they show.
Comfort zone.
Pajamas, messy buns, no makeup, drooling face, stinky sweat or running nose, they don’t care any of it! Our friends have seen us in the ugliest appearances and situations of life, and they still decided to stick by. We feel comfortable around them, and there’s nothing that can be a hurdle in this comfort level.
Away from loneliness.
Being alone, away from the world, can be appealing at times but loneliness for extended period becomes extremely depressing. Hence, friends come as the cure for loneliness. They are our full-time companion in a stranger’s parties, receivers of the late night calls, partner in the class benches and are always present by our sides. Imagining a world without friends, and being alone in the outside world forever is a massive pain to the brain
Hilarious inside jokes.
Being with friends means an opportunity to share and hear endless jokes. We all have those little hints and code words for the people we dislike that only our group of friends know. Those are the moments that remain enlightened in our hearts forever. The jokes about the annoying teacher or boss, the uncivilized guy or over-dramatic girl in the locality, are something that can light up the mood anytime.
Partner in Crime.
Friends are the permanent partner in all our crimes. No matter how serious and sincere we are, our friends have pushed us to break unimaginable rules, which are engraved in our hearts as most fabulous memories. At the times of trouble, friends have stayed by our sides and shared the responsibilities with fun. They have the strange power of turning every bad moment into hilarious and memorable ones.
The shoulder to cry on.
When heartbreaks or other situations become extremely hard to tolerate, friends offer us their shoulder to shed our tears on. They provide us the loving warm arms that wrap us away from the harsh times.
Reality Check.
Friends know us so well that they have the ability to predict and capture situations which we are in denial of. It could be the ridiculous outfit we are wearing, or the boyfriend cheating on us. They bring the harsh truth in front of us. Friends make sure to keep our foot on earth, when we are wondering on the 7th heaven with happiness, away from the ugly reality. Initially, we may fight and turn away from acceptance, but in the long run they are always right.
poems about friendship
Friendship is one of life's greatest treasures.
Friends that are loyal are always there to make you laugh when you are down,
they are not afraid to help you avoid mistakes and they look out for your best interest.
This kind of friend can be hard to find, but they offer a friendship that will last a lifetime.
Other friends may not be quite as loving.
The pain caused by a friendship marred by betrayal is not easy to overcome.
In fact, many poems find their inspiration from the joy brought about by a
loving friendship or the pain caused by a failed friendship.
Keeping friendships
- Appreciate your friends - don't take your friends for granted. Take the time to thank your friends for enhancing your life, in whichever way suits best - for example, inviting them over for dinner for no other reason than to have fun together.
- Offer time and attention - friendships need to be nurtured. If you are consistently too busy to give time to your friends, they will one day move on without you. Ensure you make friendship an important priority. Actively listen to your friends, and show your interest and enthusiasm in their lives.
- Be compassionate - people make mistakes. Sometimes, a friend may do something of which you don't approve. Put yourself in their shoes - would you want condemnation or forgiveness from those who are supposed to love and care for you?
- Don't abuse trust - for example, if a friend tells you a secret, keep it to yourself. You might think you're building relationships with others by sharing gossip, but you're actually ensuring that others won't trust you enough to tell you anything. And if your friend finds out you abused their trust, your relationship with them is as good as over.
- Control jealousy - you may want your best friend to be 'faithful' to you, which means you experience jealousy if they have other close relationships. Learn to appreciate that love for friends - like love for one's children - can be limitless.
"There's only one friends that know all your secrets"
When making friends is difficult
Some people find it difficult to make friends. Perhaps they are shy, or feel they lack the social skills to start a conversation. Suggestions include:
- Join groups that share your common interests. Talking about one of your passions, such as gardening or writing short stories, for example, can help give you confidence to talk about other things with potential new friends.
- Watch and learn from gregarious people who make friends easily.
- Practise looking people in the eye when you talk to them.
- Listen to what others are saying, rather than focusing on your own self-consciousness.
- Smile.
- Look for anyone else in the room who seems socially awkward, and approach them for conversation.
- When you talk to someone new, ask them questions about themselves or what they like to do; it's a good way to get started.
Things to remember
Friendships are an important part of life, but many of us find it difficult to find, make or keep friends. Life events, such as moving to another neighbourhood, starting a job or having a baby, can isolate us from our former support group and make forging new friendships more important than ever. In other cases, shyness or poor social skills can prevent us from taking the first step in forming a friendship. This article offers practical suggestions that may help you to expand your social circle or reinforce the relationships you already have.Priming yourself for friendship
You may want friendship, but what kind of friend would you make? Factors to consider include:- Attitudes to others - we can drive potential friends away by demanding they share our attitudes, beliefs or behaviours. If you accept that other people have a right to be different from you, then you open yourself up to the possibility of experiencing relationships that bring a fresh perspective to your life.
- Treatment of other people - think about how you like to be treated, then offer the same to the people in your life.
- Don't expect instant results - good friends aren't made overnight. Sharing your deepest secrets in one night won't necessarily create a close friendship. It may even drive the other person away. Take it slowly. Divulge 'safe' secrets first, and allow the relationship to hold some weight before you share the meatier issues in your life.
- Curb the urge to criticise - constantly griping about the failures and weaknesses of other people can make your listener feel wary of you. How do they know you aren't complaining about their flaws to other friends?
- Don't gossip - potential friends aren't going to trust you if you constantly gossip to them about the trials and tribulations of other people in your life.
- Don't compromise yourself - each one of us has standards of morality and behaviour. Don't allow yourself to compromise yourself for the sake of 'fitting in' with a group.
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